I’ve spent the majority of my life in shame. I was ashamed of being adopted. I was ashamed that my mother had a terminal illness. Then, I was ashamed that my dad gave up his parental rights. I was ashamed that I had to move to a small town my senior year and graduate with 25 people I didn’t really know. I had developed eighteen years of shame.
Once I began undergrad, I unconsciously created my own shameful experiences. Lovers and sexual indiscretions piled up. At that point, the shame covered me. But I kept it hidden.
So there I was, carrying and hiding decades of shame. I doubted that others had similar challenges. Everyone looked so perfect to me, with two loving parents and crystal clear paths paved with luck and fortune. Around 2004, I attracted more authentic conversations. Former students, friends, family, and coworkers opened up to me about their pasts and presents.
Boy, was I wrong.
Everyone else felt just as crappy as I did. They hid it, like me. Consequently, I began to reflect not only on my own, but also other people’s experiences. Rarely do friends and family want to share their innermost feelings for fear of being judged. For fear of being shamed. What is this cycle we’ve created? We live in shame and don’t talk about it because we don’t want to be shamed.
Once I figured this out, I wrote this kwote as a reminder: Don’t worry; the person next to you is flawed too!
*Disclaimer: Typically “flaws” refer to outward appearances, but I use it here to discuss so-called inward flaws.
If you ordered The Unhappy Wife last week, then it should be on its way. If not, then what are you waiting for? Until then, check out this Audrey Hepburn quote. I’m not sure about this one. It comes from the Committed Wife section of the book. I’ve talked a lot about releasing people and things on this blog, so I have to say, I disagree. What do you think, though? When it comes to romantic relationships, do you keep trying, or let it go?
And if you’ve pre-ordered the eBook, then it should have released to your device today!
This is my favorite one because it hits home. I had a GREAT wedding, paid for by my Grannie and attended by many who love Dwight and me. As much as I love my hubby, I did find myself waking up like Oh crap! Now I gotta work at a marriage! Anywho, let me know what you think.
And as of today, you can use this link to order the paperback. I figured I’d release it a little early so you can have your copy by October 20th!
It’s almost time for The Unhappy Wife to be released. I’m getting nervous people. Until then, here’s another quote. This one refers to women who like to make and check off list before and during a relationship. Know what I mean? They want someone who is six feet tall, 800 credit score, reads poetry, works on cars, etc. What do you think?
Guess what? We have three more weeks until The Unhappy Wife paperback release! This quote is from the section about detached wives. What do you think? Is sex necessary for a marriage to last? Do extramarital affairs ruin marriages?
If you’ve pre-ordered The Unhappy Wife eBook, then you have four more weeks before it’s on your device! If you’re waiting for the paperback release, then you have a few weeks before you can order a copy for you and your friends. Either way, I hope you enjoy this quote. It’s inspired from my second wife, Gina. Find out what happened when she ignored her instincts. And what about you? Ever ignored your gut feeling? What happened when you did?
With The Unhappy Wife, I’ve managed to merge my love for quotes with my love for writing. I’ll be sharing one each week leading up to the paperback release. And of course, let me know if you agree, disagree, or think it’s hogwash.
This week’s Other People’s Quote comes from a blogger who posts only love quotes, and because my book has to do with relationships, I thought it was appropriate. It’s called Always Romance. So, if you’re looking for a lovely quote about love (ba-dump-bump), then check out this blog.