Monday Notes: 8 Titles of Blogs I’m Not Going to Write

Frequently, I think of a title of an essay or a blog post, but then I don’t really have a lot to say about it. I’m doing a little spring cleaning of my phone and thought I’d share these with you before I delete them foreva.

Women and other Objects

Women used to be treated as objects. I’m talking about literal objects. For example, it is common in many cultures for the father to be “in charge” of his daughter and then when she marries, the husband is “in charge” of her. One clear is example is found in this article, 18 Countries where Women Need their Husband’s Permission to Work. I was going to write something about this, but honestly, I didn’t feel like researching more facts to prove my underlying point, which is that the United States isn’t too far from treating women like other countries do.

CliffsNotes and Sound Bites

I’m sure by now you know that people will argue on social media about something that they haven’t fully read or even viewed. Well, people do this offline, too, and I’m kind of tired of it. I realized this while reading Will Smith’s memoir. I found that people really thought they could hold a conversation about Will because Jada hosts the Red Table Talk, where she shares personal stories. However, Will’s book includes additional information from his point of view. You cannot discuss Will (the book) if you haven’t read the book. You just can’t. I liken this to when people used to read CliffsNotes, instead of the actual novel. It’s never the same.

The Price We Pay for Entertainment

I recently watched We Need to Talk about Cosby, which is excellent, by the way. Prior to viewing, I already believed (if that is the right word) that Cosby drugged and raped women, so I didn’t watch for confirmation. I viewed this doc to see if there was another angle to the story, and there was. But afterwards, I thought about other famous men who’ve been accused of sexual deviancy (i.e., R. Kelly, Michael Jackson, etc.). There’s always this societal conundrum where we don’t want to give up our beloved entertainment seemingly at the risk of protecting or believing women. And I don’t get it. I don’t have to watch The Cosby Show ever again, and he didn’t even violate me. I can’t imagine how the women he actually hurt feel when they see his face on television.

Banning Critical Race Theory

The first time I learned about critical race theory (CRT) was during my doctoral program in the early 2000s. However, while I was teaching high school English, specifically AP and Dual Enrollment, students read about and responded to texts in ways that demonstrated CRT. For example, I showed the documentary Murder on a Sunday Morning, about Brenton Butler, a Black Jacksonville teenaged boy who was falsely accused of killing a white woman. Students discussed and wrote about structural racism, the justice system, and their rights as teenagers should this happen to them (because after all, it happened in their city). When I hear about Florida banning CRT in public schools, so as not to “distort historical events,” I want to laugh because clearly there’s a misunderstanding about what CRT is, and I want to cry because academic freedom is being stripped right in public view, but no one seems to care.

Anything that isn’t Nurtured Won’t Grow

Relationships, talent, whatever you can name, if you want it to blossom, then you have to nurture it.

Corona Chronicles: Why COVID is Still in the United States

This was going to be a criticism of everyone, including myself. Here’s a running list of what I’ve observed:

  • Not wearing a mask
  • Wearing a mask below the nose
  • Taking a mask off to sneeze
  • Loose and confusing restrictions
  • Allowing K-12 schools to be open without mask mandates
  • Not washing hands
  • Wearing a mask in the restaurant when you walk in, and then taking it off while you’re sitting down eating and socializing
  • Gatherings of more than 10 people, inside or outside
  • Having rules for your establishment and not enforcing them
  • Spreading false information. My daughter works at Starbucks. According to her manager, if you have COVID, you can come to work three days later, because you won’t be able to spread it to others. Let that sink in. Your latte may be coming with a dose of something unexpected.

The American Dream and other Fairy Tales

This was probably going to be a critique of the myth of meritocracy and pulling oneself up by one’s bootstraps, but I don’t remember. I stand by the title, though.

Emotion Words

The next time you interact with someone, remember this: everyone doesn’t know how to use their emotion words, so be kind.

As usual, please feel free to comment on any or all of these, or if you’re a writer, feel free to tag me if you’re feeling inspired to take on a topic 😉


73 thoughts on “Monday Notes: 8 Titles of Blogs I’m Not Going to Write

  1. I love this list! I’ve been deleting all the posts which I thought would be a great idea to write about but didn’t add anything further in the moment while it was still fresh in my mind! I read all your ideas and was nodding in agreement with each one!

    Maybe we need to just write out some more words while they’re still fresh in our minds instead of relying upon being able to pull meaning from a few sparse words or even just a title! I’ve done that and then wondered later where I wanted to go with it!

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    1. I think you’re right, Tamara. I remember reading something called the 12 second rule. Basically, if you have an idea, you’re supposed to act on it within 12 seconds; otherwise, you’ll lose it.

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      1. That sounds about right!! I know if I don’t whip out my phone and start making notes, that I’ll lose that thought! 😬

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  2. While I’m slightly disappointed that I won’t get to read your thoughts on these topics because I think you would have had an interesting take, I think sharing these potential blog titles out to the crowd is an awesome idea. Looking forward to some crowd-sourced blog posts.

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  3. Well true, there’s only so many times one’s own voice feels lost in repetition in face of naysayers.
    The hardest part is living what one continues believe is the right path. That’s harder than just 1 blog post or an enraged tweet.

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  4. Thank you for sharing!!.. I try to avoid titles, etc.. I just sit down, take a deep breath and let my fingers to the walking and my heart do the talking… it is what it is… 🙂

    Have a wonderful day every day and until we meet again…
    May love and laughter light your days,
    and warm your heart and home.
    May good and faithful friends be yours,
    wherever you may roam.
    May peace and plenty bless your world
    with joy that long endures.
    May all life’s passing seasons
    bring the best to you and yours!
    (Irish Saying)

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  5. These all seem like pretty good posts . Totally agree with American Fairy tales thing . And the entertainment one is very relevant now . You hear that Marilyn Manson is sueing the women who he assaulted? Like what kind of world do we live in . He was seen by various other bands and people he toured with beating and abusing his spouse and various other girlfriends , but the way the law is and celebrity he can get away with it .

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      1. Yeah he’s pretty terrible . I never really liked his music , as I thought he tried too hard to be edgy. But yeah it’s unreal as there’s many testimonials from other people yet he’s able to sue .

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  6. Love all these nascent blog posts! The ones that strike me at this particular time are CRT and the American dream BS. Book ideas, all.

    I saw a young guy pull down his mask to forcefully and loudly sneeze, in line at a donut shop. Before I could stop myself I yelled, “WHAT THE FUCK!” I don’t know how to use my emotion words, apparently. Another of your post ideas hitting home…

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    1. lmao about the mask and your emotion words. I’d say you know how to use them just fine lol

      You’re the third person to mention emotion words, though, so I may figure out how to write that one 😉


    1. Ha! Thanks, Laura! It was less stressful to write, for sure. I’m glad these could spark a little something in you; giggling, thinking, and shuddering is how I feel most of these days in America lol

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  7. Firstly – this made me literally laugh out loud!!! – Taking a mask off to sneeze – what???? I can’t stop laughing again. Everything else I nodded in agreement, but this I wasn’t aware of and felt so funny not-funny :)))
    Those were some bunch of topics, I like them and I totally get it what you say of not having the time energy to write about them – I am actually inspired by you about collecting some short snippets collected in my pile of drafts and just publishing them as is, like a list of short topics without further developing them. My phone would feel so much lighter without all the baggage 🙂

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  8. I find all your titles thought-provoking. I can fully relate to these two: Anything that isn’t Nurtured Won’t Grow and people will argue on social media about something that they haven’t fully read. The latter happened to me very recently. I’m still mulling over it and intend to write about it at some point. But I also wish you could write about Emotion Words…

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    1. I think I might write about emotion words because quite a few people have mentioned that one. Please say something about people arguing on social media about things they haven’t read/watched or know about even generally!

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  9. Great post, Kathy!
    I, myself, have too many drafted posts I hadn’t returned back to in a while. It made me think too much and tired me out looking at it. Most are topics I wanted to share but didn’t, of course; similar to ones in your post.
    Oh, Kathy, you done started something giving out ideas to blog about. 😊 Just kidding.
    Take care. ❤️

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  10. All of these would be excellent. I particularly would like to talk more Cosby. True I don’t need to see him or his shows, but I’m sad not to sing “I believe I can fly” or “The World’s Greatest” and how in the world could we deny all that Michael Jackson did to completely change the direction of the music industry? This is a debate I’ve wanted to have for a long time! Perhaps you could do this as something like a mini-series?

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    1. Oh, Michelle lol I don’t know if I have it in me…I can write about it, but the comments would probably be…a lot lol

      I deleted all of R. Kelly stuff after I watched Surviving R. Kelly. It was a mess.

      LOL about the CRT comment. I may be able to eek that one out.


  11. As soon as the news about Cosby broke I was really sickened. I had bought the Cosby show on Dvd and tried watching but I couldn’t stop thinking about how disgusting he was, it tainted my love of that show.. probably can’t watch Fat Albert anymore either.

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  12. Great post! Similar to you and others, I started writing about something, and I either lose interest, lack of time, or I have something else I want to talk about, and they remain in Draft.
    It was fun to read all your ideas/topics!
    Blessings to you!

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    1. Wynne! I thought I was gonna lose it when I saw that person pull their mask down and sneeze into the air lol I immediately thought, “we’re never gonna be through this.”

      And thank you ❤

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  13. I have a very similar list on my phone but it’s mostly in regards to farm stories 😂😅 any way, I love that you didn’t just dump them and that you gave them life by posting them all here with your thoughts on each one. Brilliant!

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      1. You absolutely right! And this issue needs not only be addressed to men but women as well because is the mindset that really counts and it’s a mindset that will make a difference.

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  14. Wow I LOVE the idea for this post! I might borrow it, if that’s okay, and will of course credit you for the idea! I also do the same thing. An idea sparks and I plug the title into a new blog post draft, but then I’m like eh and just don’t feel like writing it. And this article works bc all of your topics are super interesting and I still feel fulfilled after reading just a snippet of each one. I also agree with all of your points, so there’s that too 💖💖💖

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