There are many ways to study the craft of writing. You can earn a bachelor’s degree in English. You can attain an MFA in creative writing. You can even take a few classes here and there to learn from experts.
But what should you do if you’re like me and have no intention on setting foot in another university as a student?
Read. That’s what! Writers read, and it’s important to read books in the genre in which you intend to publish. For me, that’s memoir.
Writers read, and it’s important to read books in the genre in which you intend to publish.
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So, in 2018, I read ten memoirs to learn what bestsellers are made of and to understand what the pulse of a “good” memoir is. Here’s what I found out.

A “good” memoir focuses on one theme. My favorite memoir that demonstrates this basic principle is Jesmyn Ward’s Men We Reaped. The overarching question is why have so many of the men in her community died? The quick answer is the interrelated nature of racism, poverty, and gender. The long answer is her 256-page memoir, where chapters are written in a seesaw fashion. One chapter is devoted to understanding one man’s in-depth story, while the next chapter reflects Ward’s life as it was related to each man. By the end of the memoir, Ward has clearly made a case for how systemic racism affects human beings.

A “good” memoir has to present a bigger purpose. A bigger purpose doesn’t mean theme, necessarily, but it should answer the question: why is this author telling these stories? In My Dead Parents: A Memoir, Anya Yurchyshyn spends the first half of her book describing how much she disidentifies with her parents, how much she hates them, and how much their deaths don’t affect her. Part two digs deeper and explores who her parents really were prior to marriage and children and how this showed up in her life. This is ingenious. Anyone can write a book about why they dislike their parents. But she researches their histories as a way to see their identities, and then analyzes their lives outside of being her parents.

A “good” memoir weaves back and forth through time. This is a skill. Tara Westover’s Educated is superb at showing how to write a linear/not-linear story, which is important. While the overall story should be a cohesive narrative, it should travel back in time and then snap or slowly crawl back to the near present. For example, Westover remembers one of her brother’s violent acts from when she was an adolescent and then moves the story forward to a more recent memory of when she planned to visit home. The memory of the violence is important for how she will return and interact with her family in the book’s present.
A “good” memoir fits into a clear subgenre. Issa Rae uses humor for The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl, which is a coming-of-age memoir. Kenan Trebinčević’s The Bosnia List: A Memoir of War, Exile, and Return is obviously a historical memoir, and so is The Girl Who Escaped Isis (Farida Khalaf and Andrea C. Hoffmann). Celebrity memoir is a thing, but more literary leaning ones, like Trevor Noah’s Born A Crime demonstrate sociocultural lessons. Finding Your Creative Muse explains more about these categories.
There’s nothing wrong with taking classes or seeking degrees; however, if you’d like to see what works for published authors, then I suggest reading in the genre you plan to write. I am also in no way advocating that you imitate the style of your favorite author. To me, that’s a no-no, but studying and learning about how others put words together? That’s a win for you and your growing body of work.
Are you intending to publish a book one day? Who’s your favorite author? What’s your favorite genre? What makes a book good?
“The only rule in writing is have the talent from God=*the gift of write,*&*
the only regulation of writing is to become an author *&* skill perfect *&* promoteyour books!”
_-Van Prince
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Fifteen years ago I took a year off from my job to write a novel and it didn’t work out, I failed miserably at it. I’m not even sure I can say I failed. that would be like saying a car that never left the garage because it doesn’t have an engine, broke down, if you get what I mean. Over the years, I’ve contemplated the dream from time to time as a difficult but not compteltey unrealistic exit plan from a long hiatus of the sort of work I was really qualified to do, since I abanondeed my career to take care of my boys for a long stretch. the advantage of letting go of my dream of writing is that I can neglect to capitalize, punctuate or spell things write like right here, and not feel too terribly self-conscious about it. With you, I do feel some guilt since you are a scholar and actual author. It must be terrible for you, to put up with the likes of me.
Non fiction, history is my favorite genre. But I like to challenge myself from time to time and I strategically move across genres when I learn, find something that is exceptional for its area.
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Jason, you’re like one of my best buds on here. I know I already said this, but I’m gonna say it again, in all CAPS: YOU SOULD READ THE ARTIST’S WAY!
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I absolutely believe that we learn as writers by reading other writers who are publishing in the genre we are interested in. Not, as you say, to copy them, but simply to see how they are doing it, and what works, and why. I agree that a good me memoir must be more than mere memories, there has to be something in it to share with the reader too…. I enjoy Haven Kimmel’s works in that line.
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I just looked up Haven K. Her books sound interesting, especially She Got up off the Couch lol
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Thanks for the tips. I plan to write a memoir and have read many memoirs, done some research into my own life, written up a timeline, etc. The trouble is that my story is still in progress, there is no ending yet, and I’m not sure what the theme is or what genre is belongs in. Cautionary tale??? There is also the thorny issue of memory, when our memories differ from someone else who was involved in the story, and if/how to tell the truth when it would upset someone or make them look bad. The purpose of flipping from present to past and past to present, I’d always thought, was to show how your thinking had changed over time. Like, I tell about something that happened and follow up with “Before, I thought X about how this went down. Now that I’m older and wiser with more life experience, I think Y.” Anyway, I always enjoy your how-to posts on writing. 🙂
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Thanks, Joan!
I know what you mean about differing memories, but a lot of times, I get around it because it’s the same memory but a different viewpoint/perspective, which I maintain I have the right to share lol
I get the flipping back and forth thing, and I think some authors do it better than others, of course, but I also sometimes don’t even want to hear what the person has learned. I just want to read a good story and maybe the lesson is implied.
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Hi KE,
I want to read all of those. Thank you for sharing! Blessings!
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You’re welcome! Thanks for commenting Ana ❤
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I love reading or listening to memoirs. Trevor Noah’s was great! And yes, reading widely in your genre is the best way to learn what works and what doesn’t work. I noticed another person commented that they didn’t like Educated, and I must say, I didn’t care for it either. Part of it might be because I thought it was going to be about teaching, based on the recommendation for it. If you like Ann Patchett, she has a collection of essays that’s effectively a memoir.
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Thanks for this comment, Laura! I think I’d watched/heard Westover in an Oprah interview, so I knew going in it wasn’t necessarily about teaching. But I can see how if you went in blindly, this would be a HUGE disappointment lol
I’ll have to check out Patchett’s work. Her titles and covers look engaging, and no matter what someone says, I always judge a book by its cover.
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Can’t say I have a favorite anything..but I really liked the graphics memoirs Fun Home by Alison Bechtdel, Persepolis by Marjane Sartrapi & Maus I&II by Art Spiegelman. I also love bios and auto bios.
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I like autobiographies, too. Biographies…not so much. I read Persepolis almost to the end and really enjoyed it.
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I recently read The Facts, by the novelist Philip Roth. It’s his autobiography. But, being an unusually creative guy, he also weaved fiction into the book. One of his main points in the book is that it was hard for him to determine what the facts and the truth actually were, because so much of his life was colored by writerly imagination.
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Excellent analysis of the books and great advice about writing. I am writing memoir and read a lot of that genre. From Trevor Noah I learned a painful event can be told in a funny way without diminishing the lesson learned. From Linda Ronstadt I learned that it isn’t necessary to bare all to tell a good story. From Malcolm Shabazz I learned about portraying personal transformation, including unflattering details to show the magnitude of the change. I look forward to reading the titles you’ve listed.
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Sounds like we have the same taste in memoir! Looking forward to your own publication ❤
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Well, you highlighted 2 excellent memoirs I’ve read ..and coincidentally given to me as a gift. Tara Westlover’s book is fascinating even though I found some of the domestic violence hard in strict religious Mormon upbringing. I loved Noah Trevor’s memoir, I had asked for it as a birthday gift and got it several months in hard cover after it was released.
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Yay! Trevor Noah’s memoir was so clever to me. It’s like he told us all about his background just to take us all the way up to that moment with his mother and her violent boyfriend to make a cultural and social point. I loved it.
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I just noticed the date of some older comments. Did you revise, update this post?
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Yep. I re-blogged this. A lot of people don’t realize you can re-blog by changing the release date.
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I have been writing a memoir for awhile—like eight years now. Just over a year ago, I decided I needed some help with it and went back to school. I had an organizational mess when I started, and the background piece still needs work. Tricky, tricky, this memory. For me, feedback and coaching has been awesome, and I will finish my MFA in May. But I agree about reading—that has been a huge part of my program. As for my favorite, Maya Angelou and I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings. Thanks for your suggestions.
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That is soooo close Crystal! So, I understand going back if you feel as if you need a bit of help, for sure. Have you had to read during your program, like for examples, or have you been reading just because you read (I’m just wondering).
I love Angelou’s IKWTCBS. I read the sequels years ago, but they just weren’t as good, I didn’t think.
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So close! I’ve read about half of her memoirs, and they aren’t as good, but the history of her journey is amazing—The Heart of a Woman and A Song Flung Up to Heaven inspire me with her determination. I’ve had quite a bit of assigned reading this past year—probably 30 novels, poetry, or short story collections. I’m studying fiction even though I’m writing non-fiction. This semester I can choose my own, except for my Wordsworth class, but the writing (or rewriting) is consuming. I need more memoirs under my belt. One of my favorite memoirs of the year is An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination by Elizabeth McCracken. Thanks for asking!
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I love this post…like everyone else here 🙂 I’ve been reading (more so buying-LOL) more memoirs over the last couple of years to study this genre. Robin Crawford’s A Song for Whitney was a great read for me. I have your recommendation of Educated on my “To Read” list and I will look into the others on you mentioned here.
Fiction was my first calling as a writer. That was my reading experience. However, I have always wanted to tell my personal stories and I’ve been doing that more through blogging and participating in anthologies (i.e. Daddy and soon to be released, A Widow’s Resilience). I just finished writing my 3rd fiction novel. Next book will be the memoir. Your post is now a apart of education on the craft.
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Thank you LaCharmine! Pace yourself girl. Memoirs can be a lot! And yessss! I’m here for all the Whitney H memoirs…I’ve watched all of the docudramas/biopics, etc. I need to get Robin’s because I know there are some real details there!!!
Blogging has been the most helpful for me because if you can share via WordPress and Medium, then you can definitely do it in a book 😉
And awww ❤
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Great post Kathy! I have fallen in love with non fiction this semester and have my reading mojo back. It may also coincide with the million pressing things I have on at the moment but I managed to finish a heavy going biography in just a week: The Trauma Cleaner by Sarah Krasnostein. Incredible writing and even more incredible empathy and humanity. In a case of not doing just one or the other, I’m learning through both reading and uni. And writing too of course.
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Both/and 😉
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Redundant? I think emphasis! 😜
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Excellent post for ALL authors!!
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Thank you Felicia!
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I love memoirs of many kinds and have read Educated and My Dead Parents, (both so good). I’m going to look into some of the others you named as well. I’ve wanted to do a memoir for years, but memory issues make me question if I remember some things right, and if I’ve forgotten some important parts. I’ve kind of decided that it would just be too sad/depressing to be read. It might be cathartic though, there is that. Great post as always.
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Val! You’re the reason I read My Dead Parents. I think you did a review, and after I read it, I was like oh, I need to keep following her. She knows what she’s talking about lol
I started off writing a memoir as a cathartic type thing, and it did help. Eventually, I figured out how it should/could be written if I wanted someone else to read it. I say write anyway, and you’ll decide at the end what’s best 😉
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Thanks so much, Val, for stopping by and taking the time to comment!
Your memories are sad to you, but they could also help you connect to readers who experienced similar, or give others a better understanding of how trauma is dealt with.
Don’t give up on that idea! 🙂
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You just gave me a whole list of books to add to the TBR list! LOL! And–a blog post to share with my writer students. Thanks!
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Omgoodness! Please share with your students, and at risk of sounding as if I want to teach your class, add that anyone who wants to be great in their field, studies the people in that field…not to imitate them, but just to learn. Mmmkay…leaving the rest up to you 😉
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I have a BA in English, which did provide a good learning experience for me as a young woman. But as a writer, I learned so much more from reading the work of other writers. Ann Patchett’s autobiographical books were particularly helpful in teaching me how to tap into my own inner voice, but I’m not sure I could say exactly why. Bottom line is, we learn from each other. Thanks for listing some books that I want to read!
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Thanks for adding this Ann. I had no idea you have a degree in English, but I’m not too surprised. You right very well. Your bottom line is right. In an age where not everyone can afford to go to college or just doesn’t want to, I think it’s important to show other options.
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I did actually publish a book entitled YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME?! Subtitle: STOP PLAYIN’ OR PLAY RIGHT! Lol😂😉
It’s non-fiction, all about my crazy dating experiences. A close friend of mine said I should write them down, so I did. I have more experiences to share, too, so more to come.
My favorite author is me! Wink!
And I enjoy, fiction, nonfiction, memoirs, informative books, love, laughter and life. I enjoy fill-in the blank books, cookbooks and even coloring books! #I❤️Books
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Lol I READ that book! It’s on my shelf girl 💕
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Although I’ve published two non-fiction books, I intend to publish a novel, one day, and my favorite author is Octavia Butler. But suspenseful urban fantasy seems to be my favorite genre! So, I think that an important theme, inner and external conflict against a background stressor, and deep characters make a good book, but making one think, I think, is the best part, and the whole point, of a good book.
-Shira
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Shira, what are the names of your books???
I just edited a dissertation I think you’d be interested in. The author created a theory called Endarkened storywork, and it’s basically a dissertation written as a speculative fiction novel (that references Butler’s POS). When it’s published, I’ll have to remember to pass on the info to you.
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A thesis written as a novel?? Interesting! I’m impressed that it got past a committee!!
My books are
Stayed on Freedom’s Call: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/21532511-stayed-on-freedom-s-call
and
Shared Monetary Governance:
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/21532029-shared-monetary-governance
(but my theoretical and lit. review articles are easier to read, obviously, and the book review of my thesis at IJCCR gave me better feedback than my advisor did!!)
Both are freely available on The Archive, as linked to from GoodReads.
The novels are not really publishable, but the better one, Hubris and Hemlock, is up on Wattpad: https://www.wattpad.com/story/53540830-hubris-and-hemlock
I’ll have to look for articles on this new theoretical approach! Sounds really cool, Endarkened storywork!
Thank you, Dr. G.!!
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Looks like this new theor. appr. is starting to get out there, a little bit, and it looks promising, if this article is representative?
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/338720063_Research_Methods_Comprehensive_Exam
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You’re welcome! Here name is (Dr.) Stephanie Toliver. I didn’t read all of the link you shared, but yes…part of it comes out of (Black) feminist work. It really is the most brilliant thing I’ve read in a while.
Thanks for sharing these links!
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My pleasure!
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I love how you take us to school using published books as examples! Great advice! I love memoirs and auto-biographies. I enjoy historical fiction. I enjoy non-fiction. What makes a book good to me is that it speaks truth. My favorite author based on how many of her books I have read — Beth Moore. My favorite book in years! — The Education of an Idealist by Samantha Power (an auto-biography). I did not like “Educated” at all. I haven’t read any of the other books you mention. A good memoir I recently read — “Centered” by Jason Brown (NFL player leaves football to become a farmer) Interesting blog post!
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Haha! It’s the educator in me ❤ And thank you for adding this characteristic (and books).
I HAVE to know why you didn't like Educated???
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I LOVED Men We Reaped!
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GIRL! I shouldn’t be surprised. But this is in my TOP THREE favorites. Her writing style is perfect.
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It really is.
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Yes, I’ve always wanted to publish but I’m realizing that it might have been for the wrong reasons and that there may be a better approach to sharing my fiction. That “better approach” is still marinating. No favorites right now because I can’t read and write at same time. Like you mentioned, I don’t want to take on someone else’s voice. Instead, I’m doing writing-related courses on CreativeLive that I gifted myself. Great post.
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Loved Educated K! Oh man I have one in process but it’s changing all the time
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You don’t have to share, but you’ve got me thinking if there’s ever a “wrong” reason?
Maintaining your own voice is so important! I know some instructors encourage writing “like your favorite author,” and I always frown when I hear it.
CreativeLive is something I’ll be looking at to see if I can recommend it for others…thanks for sharing that.
And thanks for the compliment 😉
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Educated is one of my favs. It’s so memorable, or maybe I just remember the father
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I’ve been working on a memoir for years! The trouble is the purpose evolves as I mature and find new understanding. One day, I will finish it if it doesn’t finish me, lol.
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LOL you can call it The Never-Ending Memoir 😉
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Exactly.
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Thanks for sharing this informative post, Katherin. It’s so interesting for me that I exploded with excitement to write about my life 11 years ago, when I first began blogging. And early on, I self-published a book with no idea about my writing structure or skill. I just wanted to express so many ideas and feelings that were suppressed for decades.
I have a block about reading. I read news, blogs, essays – but cannot seem to focus long for a book. I am too driven to work on music or other things. I am sure you’re right about what you thoughtfully shared.
I think deep down, I feel like I want to be so unique that I have no influences. That sounds silly, but I feel like I’ve lost so much time by not writing, that now I am free to be creative in any way I choose.
But thank you for giving me food for thought. I actually bought “Educated” for my Kindle – the first book ever. And it was 6 months ago and I haven’t started it yet!
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I get what you’re saying. I feel the same about writing, actually. I know that if I’m reading a well-written book, then it will definitely influence how I write, so I try not to read while writing my own stuff lol
I was thinking, though, because you’re a musician, do you just create musically or do you/have you studied the craft of producing/creating music? I think I have the same question about your artwork.
Is it just all from you, or are there other artists whose work you admire, not necessarily to copy it, but just to look at and say, hmmm…the way they did (fill in the blank) is interesting.
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You’re spot on, Katherin. I am the same way with music. My influence has come from the fabulous sounds of the 60’s and 70’s. There’s nothing else that has inspired me like John Denver, Judy Collins, Simon & Garfunkle, Carol King, James Taylor – I could go on and on.
I do not have much musical training – I’ve always played by ear. The arrangers I’ve worked with comment on how unconventional my music is at times. And that is actually refreshing for me to hear!
I remember a producer that heard my songs at the beginning (a friend’s recommendation) – he said my songs were “linear;” that they told a story. Unlike contemporary music that builds and repeats.
Well, I guess that is true. I do want my stuff to be well written and marketable – but then on the other hand, I think my mantra and story is all about finding myself. Of giving myself permission to create and explore my passion, creativity and expression of feelings at this time in my life. After years of suppression, it feels great!!! I get to please myself – wherever that may go. 🙂
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❤ That end is the best part Judy!
And yes to telling a story. I still listen to a lot of contemporary music (meaning current rap lol) and the biggest issue I have is there is no story…ever.
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I would love to publish a book! I think you know that I’ve taken a liking to memoirs in essay form, so that is my goal. But yes, only after reading a bunch I loved! For fun, I love a book rich on characters and relationships. I don’t care about plot…tome that just takes yo7 from point a to b with character development. Honestly, many of my fave authors have disappointed me as they’ve gone along in their careers. I did just read my second Taylor Jenkins Reade book, and I enjoyed it, so I’m hoping with her next book she can prove she’s on an upward trajectory
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I agree, especially with memoir, that plot is not that important, or rather, the traditional plot structure doesn’t seem to apply. I mean you still have all of the parts, right…like there has to be conflict, and I think the reader still expects some satisfaction at the end, like a resolution of that conflict.
I’ll have to look into Reade…I haven’t heard of her.
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They’re totally women’s fiction. But I thought Daisy Jones and the Six was just amazing. She added dimension to a story that’s been told a thousand times
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Hi! Haven’t posted your card yet. Our post office, when not inundated with people applying for social grants, is closed due to Covid! Patience.
And yes, I am hoping to commit to writing a memoir, or something.
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Good grief! No worries. I was hoping you’d reach back out because I couldn’t find the email 😉
Good luck writing your memoir…or something lol
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A very useful framework, thank you.
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Thank you for saying this!
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