*Monday Notes: Third Chakra

*woo-woo warning: this is a metaphysical conversation, and it’s a little longer than normal.


“…and do it with joy!” my mother used to add whenever I’d crumple up my face and slink off to do whatever she’d asked that interrupted my reading or daydreaming—wash the dishes, polish the wooden coffee table. Whatever the task, ‘do it with joy’ meant don’t pout, look angry, or be upset about it.

It wasn’t a request. It was a demand. And it became a running demand. Later, when she shared it with my grandmother, it became a running joke.

I never thought much of it, until a few weeks ago, when I was talking to Megan, the naturopath.

I’d divulged that I am tired of my job, and I have a nagging suspicion it is time to go. But as of now, I don’t know where to go, so I just do my job.

“Sounds like you may be having issues with your third and fifth chakras,” she suggested.

The fifth chakra is associated with your throat: communication, speaking, etc. I immediately shot that down. “I’ve been speaking my truth. I write. I blog. I’m an author. I freelance,” I told her, while the phlegm that accompanies my cough began building up in my throat.

“Hmmm,” she said. “What about the third? Were you raised in a house where you were made to do things you didn’t want to?” she asked.

“I was,” I said. And then I told her about the ‘do it with joy’ story.

“Sounds a lot like going to a job you don’t like but smiling about it anyway.”

She sent me away with a lot of information, and some of it included affirmations for strengthening my third chakra, which is focused on the stomach area, and subsequently, self-esteem, personal power, and courage.


I’ve reflected on this for a month or so. What does it mean? Is her assessment valid? Is this something I should consider? I decided what Megan said is very useful, and here’s how.

When I graduated with a PhD in 2010, all family and friends saw was KG with a doctorate. However, during that time, I still suffered with the low self-worth and self-esteem that had affected my marriage. Now, it just shifted over to how I looked for jobs, and subsequently, how I dealt with academic rejection.

I received my first position a month before the semester started. Typically, candidates are vetted and offered jobs way before that. The applicant needs time to move, and the institution needs time to prepare for their arrival. I knew this because the process was explained in the first five campus interviews I’d had. By the time I was hired, my (career) self-esteem was waning.

Two years later, I attained my second job in academia, again, a month before the semester started, but the issue was it wasn’t tenure track; I consciously took a job I was overqualified for. At this point, my (career) self-esteem tanked. Why can’t I secure the job for which I’m qualified? Why won’t they pick me?

Three years later, a colleague DMd me and asked if I wanted a job. It was at a community college, which I already had a judgment about, but I said yes for varied reasons. However, accepting this job reinforced what I’d already been thinking: I’m not good enough for these high-level positions. I have no personal power in this area. When it comes to attaining academic jobs, I’m not in charge of shit! So, why even try? Before I developed a gratitude practice or learned to look at a situation from a different perspective, I simply gave up ya’ll!

But I also never resolved these beliefs about jobs in academia, which were tied to my self-esteem and third chakra. Today, I am still sitting in a job I’m overqualified for, as if I have no power to change my circumstances.


So, what happens to emotional energy if you don’t deal with or talk about the situation? People like Louise Hay, believe it stays with you and becomes stuck in the body, eventually creating disease associated with that energy center. Last year, my good, blogging friend, Dr. Dinardo also showed me how anxiety shows up and can stay in your body.

And I agree.

For me, emotions have always developed in my stomach area: excitement and nervousness feel like trapped butterflies; sadness feels like a rollercoaster ride, right before you take that big dive into the unknown; anger feels as if someone has gathered all my internal organs, tied them in a knot, attached them to an anchor, and left them in my belly as a tangled mess to sort out. These are probably common for others, but for me, they’re also constant.

Over the years, I’ve begun jogging before I speak at conferences or practicing yoga before doing something that may be triggering. Exercising helps move energy. Exercising helps me to become unstuck.

The problem occurs when exercise is not an option, which is more frequent, like when I talk to my grandmother.

The other day we had a conversation, where she couldn’t figure out why she was crying. For some reason, she couldn’t connect it to the fact that her last living sister has been diagnosed with dementia and is now in an uncontrollable situation.

“I never cry,” she said with pride. “I never understood why people cry, like at funerals and stuff.”

“Maybe because they’re sad,” I suggested.

“Because they’re sad?” she questioned. “Sad?” she repeated. “Well, you know what they say about that?” she asked me.

“What?”

“You’re sad? You better scratch your butt and be glad!” and then she laughed.

Not only was this phrase not funny to me, but it also sounded like ‘do it with joy’ remixed. Suddenly, my belly started flopping and sinking, and freezing at once. Normally, I wouldn’t say anything (insert lack of personal power with Grannie here). But I’ve been forcing myself to speak up, no matter what, even if it’s uncomfortable.

“Well, that’s not very nice, Grannie,” is all I could muster.

“Huh? It’s not nice?”

“No. That’s not a very nice saying.”

We eventually ended the conversation. My belly wasn’t flopping, and I felt good about expressing my opinion (which is associated with the throat chakra).


Of course, I’ll continue to take my probiotic and finish my elimination diet to re-set my gut; however, I think there is something to acknowledging how we hold energy in our bodies, which is oftentimes associated with a specific chakra. This is the first time I’ve publicly acknowledged how my self-esteem was tied to my inability to find a job aligned with my qualifications. That’s a start. I’ll continue with re-building my (career) self-esteem in small ways and also with using my voice with specific people, even when it’s wobbly or when my belly plummets. While I’m powerful behind this keyboard, it’s also important to me to have a well-rounded sense of personal power in all areas.

Looking forward to hearing what you think.


82 thoughts on “*Monday Notes: Third Chakra

  1. Coming back to this post to let the ideas sink in deeply. This is genius Dr. G. Genius! I love how you openly explore the ebbs and flows of your life, both professionally, and personally and invite us all in for the ride. It encourages us, to reflect on the same areas of own life.

    Pain is universal, and so is joy. We experience them both uniquely. I feel you! On all these points. I lose my “taste” for different areas of my job and the ‘extras’ and moonlighting I do as a writer, speaker, sessional professor at different universities in Ontario (beyond my day job)….

    Except for the college and john —- I am low on the commitment scale as my need for freedom, exceeds everything else. And I tell people this up front because I have an aversion to being trapped in a coffin and buried under the ground .. remember that from our interview?

    We both need OXYGEN and a lot of it!

    NEXT UP — Investigative Journalism. YOU WOULD KILL IT

    And never ever stop writing autobiographically — I get chills every time I read your words.

    Dr. D ❤️

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    1. Thank you, Dr D! I realized that I don’t talk that much about how I’ve felt professionally, and I think it’s time. It’s the only way through, right? I’m with you on the liberation tour, for sure…freedom from all of the things.

      OMGosh! LMAO I totally forgot about that. When I read it, I was like that’s very descriptive lol but yes, yes…that’s how I felt just one short year ago!

      Thank you always for your encouraging words…one day, D and I will be in Canada hanging out with you and John!

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      2. I cannot wait Dr. G! Especially given the f____ up and down of this pandemic journey. It would be A+ to have a carrot at the end of it all.

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  2. Uncanny how we’re at the same point in life again. I’ve literally just had a conversation with my friends about me being stuck and wanting to look for a job. When I said I hoped to find a job in a gym or something (booo covid!), my friends gasped and one just stared at me, asking why I didn’t shoot a little higher with my diplomas and all. I just stared back and said: “Nobody’s every hired me for that, I’ve never found a job that I’m not over qualified for.” I feel so insecure about this, unbelievable. So, chakras huh? 😉

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  3. Madam ! You appear to be a master of yoga . Nice to know that . KRIYA YOGA is the way out to get all the energy one need for one’s upliftment in one’s life . I think you wanted to fix MANIPUR CHAKRA to get rid of laziness and energized your self . KUNDALNI JAGAGAN is a divine gift . And all the six CHAKRA starts functioning automatically . If you want to learn it a lot of practices are required . You have to first start from ASTANG YOGA ( Eight fold path of yoga ) . They are as follows : YAMA , NIYAM , ASHAN , PRANAYAM , PRATYAHAR , DHARNA , DHYANA and SAMADHI . KULDALNI JAGARAN starts with DHYANA ( MEDITATION ) . It is said that human body is having about 72 thousands NARDI . But IRDA , PINGLA and SUSHUMNA are important one . All the six CHAKRA are said to be located in SUSHUMNA NARDI . They are : MULADHAR CHAKRA , SWADHISTHAN CHAKRA , MANIPUR CHAKRA , ANAHAT CHAKRA , VISHUDHA CHAKRA , and AGYA CHAKRA . It is AGYA CHAKRA which controls all of them . And if you have master over the AGYA CHAKRA , all the CHAKRA comes automatically under your control. MADAM ! I liked your blog . I have been doing all this since 1977 onwards regularly , but I can’t claim to have mastered over them at all . But one thing , I feel , is that they have rejuvenating effects on my body as such .thanks !

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    1. Thank you for adding this (and for the compliment). I am familiar with much of what you’ve said here, including the eight-fold path. I think it is worth me continuing to practice and study.

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      1. We’re gonna have to disagree on this one. A lifetime of suppressing emotions is not worth me being academically or professionally successful. But I respect your opinion.

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  4. I’m so glad you spoke up! I don’t know why, but actually articulating your feelings is such a good thing, particularly when talking to someone who doesn’t usually allow that. It’s empowering. A lot of what you wrote about is new to me, but it does seem as if the main point is: be true to yourself. Find the courage to speak your truths, and live according to your own values. When you do that, things fall in place.

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  5. No question about it, that was a lot to digest!
    I can very well relate, even so, I eventually gave up the struggle and chose sacrifice instead of glory and riches.
    When I started on my short-lived “career” as an architect in the early seventies it was all about enthusiastic idealism. But five years later, having nearly achieved “corporate glory”, I was suddenly confronted with avarice, competition, envy and the melting away of the last residues of my integrity. What followed were a nervous breakdown and a considerable rise in consciousness. I realised I was not willing to sell my soul.
    I have never been more satisfied since I decided to pursue the artistic path and independence.

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  6. I don’t know much about the Chakras, Katherin. But so much of what you are dealing with I can completely relate to. As a people pleaser myself, I learned early on that smiling and making everyone around me happy was my most important task.
    I also had a reflux cough and worked with a naturapath. I went through the gut detox and reset. The first round was manageable, but the second one was brutal. I had to quit after a week because I was so sick. I also had a colonic, which was an interesting experience.
    My cough went away after I lost weight, but I have it again since gaining back some. I hate it and nerves make it worse.
    I am proud of you for speaking up to Grannie. You were honest, yet polite. In terms of baby steps, you ran a mile, as far as I’m concerned!

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    1. Thanks for adding this experience, Judy. We have so many similar traits and ailments, and this also makes me believe that everything is truly connected. I just can’t imagine that two people pleasing people who had to learn to use their voice just happened to have the same sicknesses.

      So far, I have lost quite a bit of weight, too, and my cough is subsiding. The phlegm in my throat is still there (not as much), so we’re going to discuss what types of supplements can support me.

      Speaking up to Grannie is a whole ordeal lol Thank you for the support, though.

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  7. Reminds me of a quote “Whatever is unsaid will be wept”
    To me there is no separating of our physical and emotional body. It gets suppressed, stored and expressed in ways and timings not in our control. All we can do is keep working on bringing the right influences and allowing things to clear out as they come up. Tears and joy are equally acceptable and important in my perspective. Tears make way for the experience of true joy. Some solid work on boundaries helped me get rid of my conditioned fake smiles through all that was not my choice.

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  8. Girl! A thousand times yes!!! You got this! And I don’t mean to advertise, but I feel so passionate about this subject matter and LIVE by chakra work. A few years ago I went through my third chakra journey (boundaries and that comment to your grandmother is HUGELY transformative, keep gong!) and I wrote a blog post called Solar Plexus Chakra Healing. I dunno why but for some reason, this article by far gets the most hits from search engines. Anyway, feel free to read if u want and if not, no worrries! I worked a lot with affirmations and empowering yoga poses actually. And yeah just standing up for myself and setting boundaries, even tho it was sooooo uncomfortable at first. But now I’m like Boundary Queen! So it gets easier. I love this article, thank u so much for sharing such personal stuff, it means so much. And I’m sure you’re helping so many others too! PS I used to get debilitating stomach cramps and I’d have to walk hunched over for hours until I made it home and could just feel safe. Ugh! 💛💛💛

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    1. No worries about advertising! What’s the link, so I can read it?

      I didn’t realize boundaries were also a part of that 3rd chakra healing. I had a whole year where I did nothing but focus on and set different types of boundaries with everyone in my life, so it seems I’ve been on this journey for a minute.

      I understand the stomach cramps. I once worked a job I absolutely hated. After I quit, someone invited me to come back and present something. As soon as I walked in the door, my stomach started hurting. The body always knows, I suppose 😉

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    1. I sat here for the longest time reading and re-reading because I kept interpreting it like you run your household like this currently, and I was so confused, like yes, Rebecca…I am surprised!

      Anywho, I’ve been reading online too much lol

      You’re welcome! Thank you for reading and commenting ❤

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      1. Hi Kathy, When I looked back at my comment, I saw the unintentional and unintended meaning. Sorry, should have used past tense! No, feelings and independent thoughts very welcome in my own home! Thanks for expressing and analyzing such important issues.

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  9. Third Chakra, Firth Chakra, it’s a whole new way of looking at it for me and I SO appreciate you sharing this. The lump in my throat when I’m not speaking my truth (which is almost always), the butterflies and (what I call) the elevator drop in my stomach when I’m trying to contain and water down my emotions and I don’t feel like enough (which is almost always) . . . you’ve given me a lot to think about, a new angle to approach it from. Thank you for sharing you journey.

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    1. You’re welcome! It really is a fascinating way to look at what makes us sick. I wouldn’t put everything into the chakra bowl, but I do think that with other things, it can be helpful in healing illnesses.

      Thank you for reading and commenting ❤

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  10. You have inspired me to research the chakras. It makes sense that energy and emotions can get “stuck” in our bodies. I also get knotted stomach very frequently and I know it’s tied to my mental state.
    I hope you find a job that is a happier fit for you. And in the meantime, thank you for bringing up the topic of Career self-esteem. It’s not discussed very much and it definitely has as much (or even more) effect as other types of self-esteem.

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    1. You’re welcome! Thank you so much for reading and commenting. Although all esteem is connected to a root cause, I wanted to ensure I separated the type of esteem we have with careers, because I do think it’s different. Plus, my self-esteem in some areas is very high, but this one…not so much lol

      Thank you for the well-wishes! I hope your chakra research helps in the long run.

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      1. Thank you! How true, that our self-esteem can vary a lot between different areas of life and depending on the context. As always you’ve given me lots of food for thought. 🙂🌹

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  11. I am here for the WooWoo!
    I am thinking about quitting my job and “retiring” 10 years early by doing some consulting to tide me over. Your story and the 3rd Chakra caught my attention.

    Then when you talked about “do it with joy” I was hearing about I have to work hard, life is not all fun, and give me your tough shit card and I’ll punch it for you.

    I guess I have some sticky solar plexus work to do to overcome old programming. Explains my inability to make a decision or a plan. Now I see retiring early is not working hard. Wow! Thanks

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  12. I think that a lot of us feel that way about self worth and rejection. I’m reminded of Steven Wright bit where he’s at a job interview. The person is asking him quesions, when he interrupts the interviewer and says “Let me ask you a question. If you are in a spaceship that is traveling at the speed of light, and you turn on a flashlight, does anything happen?” The interviewer replies, “I don’t know.” To which he answers “I don’t want your job.” I might have butchered that a bit, but it was funny and the bigger point is that we’re a lot better than we think.

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  13. Thanks for sharing this, Kathy. I had never known the chakras could be so important and necessary until I’ve started working on mines a few years ago. May it all work out for you, health wise and spiritually. 💜

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  14. This feels beautiful, deep and true. I love how you identified the specific situation in which your 3rd chakra was stuck and managed to speak those words to your grandma. A small moment but symbolically big. And your work on your 5th chakra – once you name it, I believe it all starts moving.

    Amazing work, wonderful writing. Inspirational as always! Thanks, Kathy!

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    1. Thank for this affirming comment ❤ I really appreciate it. This is hard work.

      So, yeah. Anytime I say something in contradiction to my grandmother, it's like I'm six or something, so it takes A LOT to form words and get it out.

      I think you're right about naming and working on things. It's the first step to healing, right?

      Thank you again for reading and commenting ❤

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  15. I’m not too sure about chakras and how they work but I’m sure of how one is brought up has a direct impact on how they react to things. As we age we get a handle on our surroundings like work life and home life but the wheels can fall off when it comes to dealing with our relatives like uncles, aunts and so forth especially because they seem to view us as the kids we were initially and we too may view them as persons in authority as they’ve always been. Twice this year my uncle said things that were nasty to me and I overlooked them because he was my favourite uncle. I realised on any other day I’d never take such disrespect and rudeness from any other person so why was I allowing him to? And the shift of power automatically happened. Hope you settle your tummy and keep finding your voice Miss K.

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    1. Yes. Yes, and YES to all of this!

      This part: “especially because they seem to view us as the kids we were initially and we too may view them as persons in authority as they’ve always been” is ESPECIALLY profound for me. It has taken so long for my family to see me as an adult, and it has been super annoying.

      And no worries about the Dr. I don’t get bent out of shape about titles, unless we’re in a professional setting lol

      Thank you so much for this comment. It really does ring true.

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  16. This is a manifesto greater than Karl Marx’s Manifesto. Why? Because it’s not outdated and is in tune to time worthy of all generations; for your input here resulted into the American way, the best way for success and happiness worldwide, a recipe for world peace!

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