I didn’t to it to others, so don’t worry. It has been an ongoing process with me learning about different things especially with some psychological aspects.
No problem. That is a point you brought up because I’ve had that temptation although for completely different reasons than what I mentioned and nowhere near as severe such as fandom shaming. I didn’t feel like you were judging me.
It really does and I know it’s going to take some time especially as I’ve been very self-reflective. Thank you.
Yes! I was struggling to put into words what I meant and as I look back on my comment that I wrote, rewrote, and didnāt reread before I pushed send š¤¦š¼āāļø Iām impressed that you understood what I was trying to say. Iāve been hurt by allowing people to use their toxicity as a weapon.
Wow! This really is powerful, and very true. People who feel empowered tend to rise to the occasion of our belief in them. Our encouragement of others has a much bigger impact than we realize!
Thanks for sharing this great reminder & awesome quote! ā„
I often think that the world would be MUCH better place if humans could just learn to stop trying to make everyone else be/act/think just like they do. I understand that it’s a natural tendency, but it’s a very harmful one.
I so agree. I just told (the other) Ann that it seems like we’d learn to accept everyone’s differences as strengths, instead of trying to change people to fit into a mold.
Thank you for sharing!!… Unfortunately there are a number of closed minded ideologies in today’s societies that have a definite thought as how things should be and resist or deny anything contrary to their ideology.. makes it difficult to be different… change is in the winds and hopefully with technology, wisdom will prevail and this ole world will become a better place… āHold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, life is a broken-winged bird, that cannot fly.ā (Langston Hughes )… š
Until we meet again..
May love and laughter light your days,
and warm your heart and home.
May good and faithful friends be yours,
wherever you may roam.
May peace and plenty bless your world
with joy that long endures.
May all life’s passing seasons
bring the best to you and yours!
(Irish Saying)
Yes, this is true. Iād like to add you canāt let the way people are punish you for allowing them into your life. Iām not sure if Iām expressing that correctly.
This is a very good point, and one that I have had a very difficult time learning, over the years. When I first started teaching, especially coming from a Computer Science background where we were, harsh, let’s say, on perceived laziness (Read The Fine Manual was a standard response, or RTFM, to just about any question…). It took me a long time to understand that many people are struggling to crack a book as it is, and that ‘whipping them with words’ is not motivating, but simply down-breaking.
So, I atone by working to build empathy as I work to build tools to help us educate each other and ourselves, but I still need help even meeting myself where I am.
Thank you, Dr. G. for this needed reminder of how important it is to meet each person where that person is, if we really want to do any good.
Thanks for sharing this example Shira! I’m not very good at meeting people where they are on most days, but what you say here is true. Empathy and compassion can help.
Yup, empathy and compassion (not a “shot upside the head” like back in the day)! They definitely work wonders.
We just need more tools, like what Miranda Lemon does with Violet’s Vegan kids comics, for helping us learn.
This sentence could just stop at: “You can’t change people.” Or it could have stopped at: “You can’t change people by punishing.”
With the longer sentence, the absurdity grows!
K E Garland 
Oof! That is tough because I felt like I was punished due to my personality and my ethnic background.
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How’d you get over it? I’m sure you don’t do this to other people, though, right?
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I didn’t to it to others, so don’t worry. It has been an ongoing process with me learning about different things especially with some psychological aspects.
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lol and whew! I just know sometimes we tend to do to others what was done to us (no judgment, just was wondering).
It does take time to get over, though. I’m glad you’re taking the steps to heal ā¤
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No problem. That is a point you brought up because I’ve had that temptation although for completely different reasons than what I mentioned and nowhere near as severe such as fandom shaming. I didn’t feel like you were judging me.
It really does and I know it’s going to take some time especially as I’ve been very self-reflective. Thank you.
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But how’s the book? LOL!
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Straight š girl š¤¦š½āāļø
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YES! Change is difficult, and shaming someone will not inspire them to do so. It’s through our stories that we’ll hopefully inspire šŗ
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Most definitely. I’ve also learned not to try and change anyone at all.
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Change is the only constant. We just can’t expect someone to not to change.
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EXACTLY!
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What an amazing quote! Really makes you think!
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I totally agree!
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Then what do you do with them?š¤£
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LOL
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well said !!
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I agree!
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Simple yet very impactful words. Definitely a fact to ponder about!!
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Thank you. I agree!
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Yes! I was struggling to put into words what I meant and as I look back on my comment that I wrote, rewrote, and didnāt reread before I pushed send š¤¦š¼āāļø Iām impressed that you understood what I was trying to say. Iāve been hurt by allowing people to use their toxicity as a weapon.
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I’m an educator. I’ve had to decipher all kinds of words lol This was easy š
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Wow! This really is powerful, and very true. People who feel empowered tend to rise to the occasion of our belief in them. Our encouragement of others has a much bigger impact than we realize!
Thanks for sharing this great reminder & awesome quote! ā„
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Absolutely! Thank YOU for reading and commenting!
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I often think that the world would be MUCH better place if humans could just learn to stop trying to make everyone else be/act/think just like they do. I understand that it’s a natural tendency, but it’s a very harmful one.
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I so agree. I just told (the other) Ann that it seems like we’d learn to accept everyone’s differences as strengths, instead of trying to change people to fit into a mold.
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Thank you for sharing!!… Unfortunately there are a number of closed minded ideologies in today’s societies that have a definite thought as how things should be and resist or deny anything contrary to their ideology.. makes it difficult to be different… change is in the winds and hopefully with technology, wisdom will prevail and this ole world will become a better place… āHold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, life is a broken-winged bird, that cannot fly.ā (Langston Hughes )… š
Until we meet again..
May love and laughter light your days,
and warm your heart and home.
May good and faithful friends be yours,
wherever you may roam.
May peace and plenty bless your world
with joy that long endures.
May all life’s passing seasons
bring the best to you and yours!
(Irish Saying)
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Most definitely Dutch! Thanks for sharing one of my favorite poets, Langston Hughes ā¤
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True!
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Yes, this is true. Iād like to add you canāt let the way people are punish you for allowing them into your life. Iām not sure if Iām expressing that correctly.
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I think I get it. Don’t beat yourself up about who others present themselves to be? It’s not your fault.
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Facts
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…all day.
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Sounds perfect!
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I agree ā¤
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This is so true.
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This is a very good point, and one that I have had a very difficult time learning, over the years. When I first started teaching, especially coming from a Computer Science background where we were, harsh, let’s say, on perceived laziness (Read The Fine Manual was a standard response, or RTFM, to just about any question…). It took me a long time to understand that many people are struggling to crack a book as it is, and that ‘whipping them with words’ is not motivating, but simply down-breaking.
So, I atone by working to build empathy as I work to build tools to help us educate each other and ourselves, but I still need help even meeting myself where I am.
Thank you, Dr. G. for this needed reminder of how important it is to meet each person where that person is, if we really want to do any good.
Stay safe,
-Shira
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Thanks for sharing this example Shira! I’m not very good at meeting people where they are on most days, but what you say here is true. Empathy and compassion can help.
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Yup, empathy and compassion (not a “shot upside the head” like back in the day)! They definitely work wonders.
We just need more tools, like what Miranda Lemon does with Violet’s Vegan kids comics, for helping us learn.
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Agreed.
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(Safe!) Hugs!!
š
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Amen. If only people would stop trying. š
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True!
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This sentence could just stop at: “You can’t change people.” Or it could have stopped at: “You can’t change people by punishing.”
With the longer sentence, the absurdity grows!
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ššš but also yes
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There’s a new perspective!!
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You think so?
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For me, honestly.
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Kathy, this is so true but not appreciated by many!
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I agree!
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This is a sermon all on its own. Thank you for sharing this, Kathy!
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You’re so welcome trE ā¤
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What a liberating thought.
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I agree ā¤
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