Monday Notes: Reflecting on Blogging

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When I first began blogging, I was nervous. I didn’t think I had enough words to sustain a blog. My husband is reading this laughing. My newly acquired sister is going to screenshot this to me with a comment like in what world do you not have enough to say? My friends are reading this statement with wrinkled noses and confused faces.

I do talk a lot. But I didn’t know if what I had to say would be enough to maintain a blog that would keep email subscribers, known and unknown, returning and commenting.

It’s just recently that I realized what it might be.

I’m pretty authentic. I remember a blogging friend, Leslie, once commented that she admired how I “told my business without really telling my business.” I understand what she means now. I do let you in, the same way I let people into my life in person. If you ask me how my marriage, kids, or business is going, then I’m going to tell you. You might not know everythang, but you will know enough to feel as if you know.

I like connecting. When we first met, Dwight said, “You speak to everyone like you’ve known them forever!” He was absolutely right. That’s because I feel as if I’ve known you forever, even if we just met. You’re my friend. Period. He’s also told me that I seem open to connecting to people. I once argued this point, but he’s right about that too. I want to get to know you. Other people look for differences; it’s part of human nature. I look for similarities. Essentially, we’re all connected, and when we meet, I’m trying to understand how.

I like conversation. My comment section says comments are welcomed. And they really are. I want to talk to you about whatever you wanna talk about. If you are an adopted mother and I’m an adopted child, then I want to hear your perspective…for real. If you’re married and I’m married, I want to know how our marriages are similar or different and why. If you live near Philadelphia (I see you Neil), then I want to talk to you about my three visits to the City of Brotherly Love.

My blog is an extension of my real self.

OMThis was made clear to me when Dwight and I hung out with my sister and her family. We mistakenly took a 3-mile walk to a tourist destination. Along the way, everyone decided to take a break at a 7-Eleven. I opted to sit outside. On my way to rest my buns and feet on the nearby sidewalk, a man, sitting in an old, beat-up car saw my OM tattoo.

“Do you know what that means?” he asked.

I told him I did. As I explained, I inched nearer and nearer to where he sat, in the passenger seat, with the door wide open, while his girlfriend braided his dirty blonde strands. I looked in his eyes during our five-minute conversation. I examined the track marks on his pale arm as he explained his religion, Dolphinism. Heroin, Cocaine, Adderall? His erraticism showed that at least one was his drug of choice.

“What do you do?” he asked.

“Professor,” I answered. It’s always my first answer.

Shame overwhelmed him and he did as many have in the past, explained why he hadn’t attained his educational pursuits. He couldn’t believe someone with a terminal degree would want to talk to him. And as I eyeballed the clothes, papers, and plastic bags that filled his car, I explained to him that he was a person, just like me. I told him that it didn’t matter that I was a professor and he was who he was. All that mattered was this moment, where I held space for the two of us to have a conversation.

And that’s exactly how I feel about blogging. I don’t know who many of you are, but I know one thing. We’re all here seeking something similar. I see you the same way you see me.

66 thoughts on “Monday Notes: Reflecting on Blogging

  1. KE,
    This post made me stop and realize how much we are alike. I, too, live as authentically as is socially acceptable. My motivation is to be brave enough to bare my soul in certain areas of my life (recovery, ambition, faith) so others may one day come out from the cloak of their own shame or guilt and say, me too. Or I know how you feel. Or at the very least drop the rocks that hold them back.
    I am glad we’ve connected and can’t wait to get to read more of your blogs and get to know you better.

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    1. Shawn, first of all thank you for reading and following my blog. I appreciate it. I’m usually quicker to respond, but I recently took 14 days off from speaking words to most people.

      With that said, it’s a pleasure to meet you. I’m glad you notice our similarities. Living authentically (even when it’s not socially acceptable) has been my thing for a few years now and I agree with you. Being yourself as much as possible will always help someone else to do the same, and hopefully help them to see that there’s no shame or guilt; we’re all just living our own lives traveling on this journey ❤

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  2. I totally agree – I was nervous too when I started mine – but have found blogging to be wonderful in ways I hadn’t anticipated. I love how we all have time to think before we hit ‘post comment’ & how it introduces us to folks we wouldn’t ordinarily get a chance to meet in faraway places!

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    1. That’s a major part of it da-AL. Although it’s considered social media, it’s a more thoughtful branch, where we are able to be authentic, share ourselves, and interact with others in real ways 😉

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  3. I think your attitude is wonderful, and probably why your blog is so successful. Your posts are so genuine, you see open to connecting with all different kinds of people and you write very well….Believe me, you have more than enough to say to sustain this blog for many, many more years! And I sincerely hope you do.

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  4. Fabulous post ! Your open minded, what you see is what you get, style of blogging is what I love most. I think. Or is it your wisdom. No, I think the most I like about your blog, is that I absolutely feel welcomed and having made a new friend.

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  5. Brilliant post, Kathy. I loved everything about it. I believe I’m a little bit on the opposite. By this I mean, I open to friendship, communities and all. But I’m a very private person, when it comes to my life. But then again, those who read already know a lot about me. 😀

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  6. Oh i know everythang 😊 It’s always nice to read your words and super special when time zones and our schedules align for a phone conversation. Did the girlfriend join in the chat or did she carry on braiding? I love how you are you in any situation.

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  7. I loved this post. I enjoy talking with all kinds of people. I never ask them what they do for a living, and if they ask me, I never say “nurse” or “retired nurse” (which creates a hierarchy and is often seen as an invitation to disclose their medical problems “I have prostate trouble” or ask questions “Does this mole look cancerous?”) I ask them things related to what I can see, what their tattoo means, what they’re reading, if they’ve ever been to the place on the t-shirt they’re wearing, etc. People volunteer all kinds of info when they feel seen. Maybe they have lost a child, or read every Harry Potter book, or run the Boston Marathon. You never know what they’re going to say. It’s great! 🙂

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      1. I just say I’m retired and that I used to work for the government. (That’s true, I was a nurse on an Air Force base.) As for what I do now, I might say I’m a poet, writer, dog walker, gardener, environmentalist, etc. 🙂

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  8. Kathy, this is so beautiful––and demonstrates your empathy, authenticity and real-ness. Thank you.

    I was touched especially by what you wrote: “All that mattered was this moment, where I held space for the two of us to have a conversation.”

    This is how I see you. Grateful to have followed your blog, and that we had the gift of meeting in person in Jacksonville.

    Blessings to you and to all the people who you touch!

    Love,
    Debbie

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    1. Thank you Claudette! I understand about the walls lol I used to have some up, but the way my spirit is set up, people would still walk up to me like, “heeey…you sure do look mean” lol

      But I get it.

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  9. Loved your post, Kathy. We share similar traits. It must have something to do with teaching others. (I’m a former high school teacher.) I, too, “speak to everyone like [I’ve] known them forever.” After all, we’re all humans. We need to remember that…always ❤

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  10. Great post, as always. You have the gift that makes people want to talk to you. Your open heart is right there, even if you don’t share every niggling detail. Your unattended goodness shines through

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