12 Ways to Maintain the Christmas Spirit AFTER Christmas (7)

Here is another reflection of how I maintained the Christmas spirit after Christmas.

7For August, I paid it forward. In case you’re unfamiliar with this concept, the idea is instead of paying someone back for a good deed, you pay it forward by doing something nice for someone else. For example, during one of this summer’s vacations, our friends paid for all of our meals and museum exhibits. Instead of paying them back, we would just pay it forward by doing something for someone else. Typically, people associate this with literally paying for something for someone. So, that’s where I began.

I learned a few years ago that strangers tend not to accept face-to-face help. When I tried to pay for a guy’s groceries, he vehemently declined. This time around, I simply paid for the person behind me in the Starbucks line. It was done and I could zoom off before the driver knew what happened.

But paying it forward in that way seemed cliche. So the following week, I was more in tune with my surroundings and looked for ways to pay it forward without money. I suppose it’s just called helping someone. This worked out perfectly. Instead of ignoring the bewildered lady who’d never signed into the library’s computer, I stood beside her and patiently explained how to log in and find her name. Someone once had to do this for me too.

I continued paying it forward in this way by holding the door for a lady at yoga. I’d noticed some time ago that people are all Namaste while they’re in yoga, but will let that door slam in your face when it’s over. Instead of silently complaining, I decided to be the change I wanted to see. Another opportunity presented itself the following week. A lady in my Bodyworks class was running late, so I helped her set up her space by getting her dumbbells for her.

“Thank you so much! I was finishing my quinoa and fruit in the car,” she said.

Then, you know what happened? I was running late the next week, and she didn’t hesitate to help me set up so I could begin on time.

img_4623This month, I also participated in our citywide “Stuff the Bus” back-to-school campaign. I normally don’t do this because we have our own children’s school supply needs to fulfill, but again, there was that one year D and I needed a little extra help for our own daughters. Instead of paying that person back, I gave freely to support the children in my community.

So far, this month is my favorite way to maintain the Christmas spirit after Christmas because paying it forward really is just about being present and giving of oneself in ways that someone once gave to you.

Let me know what you think about this one. Also, tell me if you’ve ever paid it forward to return a good deed, or just to be nice in the moment.

28 thoughts on “12 Ways to Maintain the Christmas Spirit AFTER Christmas (7)

  1. I tried doing kind acts consciously for a few days with the intention of writing about the experience and submitting it to a magazine that had asked readers to do so. I really struggled and grasped at little things like having saved a spider in a container and letting it go in the garden (i guess that was a biggie for the spider), but i really struggled with conscious, out of the everyday kind acts with humans till it occured to me that something as simple as considering or acknowledging the ‘stuff’ people may have going on behind their fascade is an act of kindness and that kinda helped me be a little gentler to a colleague who i just don’t gel with.

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    1. Riiight! Being kind doesn’t have to be some out of the way experience. It’s just…being more consciously aware/in tune of what’s going on and then being nicer in that moment. Or at least that’s what I thought.

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  2. When I got married, I was still in college. I could work only part-time, so we juggled our bills and made do and went without. More than once, a random act of kindness got us through. We worked hard to pay down our debt, and now find ourselves in a position to help others the way we were helped. I wrote about “paying it forward” last Christmas season, here’s the link: https://justjoan42.wordpress.com/2017/12/17/entertaining-angels-unaware/. πŸ™‚

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  3. I like this. Funny People are all “Namaste” in yoga, but don’t hold the door. LOL!!! I know what you mean. I’m really trying to be better about paying it forward with my time. I can be selfish with my alone time, such as tonight and tomorrow, my son is with his father. I’m free and I just want some “Me time.” I actually need to see my mother. God help me! Thanks for this post.

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    1. Girl, it’s the truth lol My husband had to remind me that everyone who practices yoga isn’t doing it for the same reason. Some people are just there to exercise. I totally understand what you’re saying about time. I’ve had to shift the way I work in order to balance social time.


  4. I love this, and I am doing the same. As you know, people were *very* generous with helping me with my move, and none of them asked to–nor expected to be–paid back, but I have decided that since my new job pays better and I actually have money after I pay my bills, I am going to give to my friends when they ask for support for a cause, etc. It’s the only way I can think to repay the kindness that has been given me. So thank you for this.

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    1. Thanks Akilah! Paying it forward is ideal (in my mind). I believe we’re all connected, so for you to pay it forward really is just putting it back in the rotation and showing your gratitude. You’re very welcome.


  5. I see that Christmas spirit fizzling out fast a lot. Everyday for me is a holiday. I actually do a lot of paying forward but I never thought to put it in the perspective of the Christmas spirit. After this post, I suppose I am going to be doing a lot of paying forward and signing them off as my Christmas gift.

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    1. “Everyday for me is a holiday” love this sentiment! Glad to have offered an additional thought to what you already practice πŸ˜‰ And now you’ve made me think of this differently. Wouldn’t it be great if we all felt, “everyday for me is a holiday”? We might be a little kinder and more giving.


  6. I think this a important key to..well, to everything in life “I decided to be the change I wanted to see”. What comes around, goes around…In my experience, it really works that way.
    And meanwhile, it is October! Enjoy the rest of your Sunday, XxX
    (ps: the link to your previous posts 1-6 you forgot to add)

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    1. I also agree with what you’ve said Patty. A lot of times we forget how important it is just to “be the change,” instead of complaining about what is or isn’t in existence. It’s all about ripples πŸ˜‰

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  7. It used to be in Europe especially that the holiday season started at the beginning of October with the Feast of St.Michael and lasted until January 12 with the Feast of the Epiphany including Christmas and Halloween and Advent,

    They very much had your idea of celebrating more than just one day or just one month, And we could easily throw in the rest of the year to celebrate πŸ™‚

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    1. Seeee (in my whiny voice) I knew I wasn’t crazy! It’s a season, but yes, I’d love for society to consider the entire year! I’m working on it…one ripple at a time πŸ˜‰


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