DADDY CONTRIBUTOR: BB

Unlike The Unhappy Wife book, Daddy is not written by me. This anthology includes stories written by women, who felt it important to publicly re-tell narratives centered on their relationship with their father. Each woman’s purpose is similar, yet different. Every Friday, I invite you to read about their reason why.

Today, please meet BB, author of “Abandoned at Breakfast.” Her story outlines the fear of repeating family patterns.

1521808695783Why were you inspired to contribute to this book? I was told about this writing opportunity during a time of healing and self-reflection. At the time, I was looking at the relationships around me to see how they affected me, and how they contributed to the old wounds and the emotional baggage I was carrying. Reaching a point of self-awareness helped me to realize that I was still hurt by the broken relationship between my father and me. I quickly saw how my broken relationship with daddy affected my perception of myself, and ultimately spilled over into other relationships. So, not only would my contribution provide me with a sense of healing, but it would allow me to share my story with other women who could relate.

What is your father-daughter relationship like now? Our relationship is positively progressing. We talk or text at least once a week, and we see each other once a year. However, I can admit that there are awkward moments of uncertainty, at least on my end. I don’t doubt his intentions or his desire to rebuild our relationship, but sometimes I find it challenging to establish an authentic connection beyond the surface level. I often wonder if it’s possible to get past the “hey, how’s your week going” conversations.

If there is one thing you could tell women who struggle with “daddy issues” what would it be? “We are all human.” I say that statement with the most empathy and sincerity that I have. Some women have experienced the unthinkable with their fathers, and I would never discount that. When it came to my particular experience with my father, I heard bits and pieces about the things he struggled with during his childhood. Once I moved past anger and reached a place of healing, I was able to feel for who he was at that time.

If there is one thing you could tell men with daughters what would it be? I would emphasize to fathers that they are the first man from which their daughters receive love. Oftentimes, she will base her sense of self-worth and perception of other men on the experience she has with her father. Material possessions are nice, but nothing can replace the love and security that is felt when a father is fully present in his daughter’s life. She needs you.

What are you working on currently? I am working on my first children’s book. As we get older, we sometimes forget what it feels like to use our imagination. Creating a book for kids allows me to escape reality while spreading a message of love and positivity.

BBBB is a writer, mentor, and customer-focused pro, tirelessly devoted to serving others through words, influence, and good deeds. She’s a woman who takes pride in her roles as wife, mother, daughter, and sister. She dreams of living in a world of endless pancakes where women realize their self-worth.

 

The eBook version of Daddy is available for pre-order now!

Paperback version is available for order here.

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15 thoughts on “DADDY CONTRIBUTOR: BB

  1. I’m finding myself in all of these shares. So I’m sensing it’ll help me outgrow some patterns I don’t know exist or don’t acknowledge.
    So I think I’ll be in your comments a lot too..

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  2. So far this is for me personally the most intriguing story. Not related to my relationship with my fathers, but with my mother. When is the book released again? This impatient woman is getting slightly frustrated to have to wait….lol
    Wishing you a wonderful Sunday, dear Katherin. XxX

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    1. Aha! I’m learning that quite a few daughters (specifically) also have issues with their mothers. Patience, Patty lol This book will be released Father’s Day weekend, June 16th. Paperback will be ready for order June 2nd. Looking forward to you reading and sharing what you think.

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    2. Patty, I’m so thrilled that you could relate to my story. Lately, I’ve been thinking about how the mother-daughter relationships often affect daughters as well. I could write a memoir about that as well. I’m ready when Kathy is. 😊

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    1. I thought I’d answered this already! Thank you! I had one beta reader who also has a great relationship with her father say that it helped her to see that everyone doesn’t have the same experience. She was truly shocked that some women and their fathers interacted in these dysfunctional ways. I’m glad that you have a nice relationship with yours because you’re right…good or bad, there’s an impact.

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