By K E Garland and Mek
It’s a new year! You’re ready and rearing to go with several resolutions. There’s just one problem. How will you maintain them? Whether you’re a traditional New Year’s resolutionist, or a general goal-setter, Mek and I are sharing six ways to maintain those goals. Each is a method that we personally use. We hope these help as you’re re-shape life.
Visualize your goals: Visualizing successful outcomes of goals is a powerful tool. To begin with, take some time to imagine how your life will positively shift once you’ve achieved the goal. Is it health, wealth, more fun, a de-cluttered house? If you have a tangible outcome that is clear in your mind’s eye, then you’ve partially accomplished it. Furthermore, envisioning benefits will give it added weight, increasing your desire to stick to it.
Keep your goals visible: Now that your goal is at the forefront of your mind, try posting it somewhere you can actually see it. For me, it’s my bathroom. I list each goal on a single sheet, print it out, laminate it and then stick it to my side of the mirror so I have to face them each and every day. Not as Type A as me? Create a digital note and make it the background for your cell phone, laptop or tablet. This will ensure that you consistently see what you’ve committed to doing.
Create mini-goals: Your goals are on your mind and on paper. Now, create mini-goals. Think of these as resolution subcategories. Did you promise yourself that this is the year you self-publish and market a book? What will it take to do this? Once you’ve determined the steps, then you’ll have your mini-goals. Here’s what they might look like:
- Scout editors.
- Create a blog.
- Find someone to create a digital cover.
- Read Stephen King’s On Writing.
Prioritizing your mini-goals is key. Reflect on which ones best serve to progress your major goals so that you can decide where to best use your time.
Determine Milestones: We know what some of you are thinking. Those mini-goals could be major goals. You’re right. Different resolutions require different timeframes. That time could be a year, three years or a decade. It depends on your overall objective and priorities. Either way, clear milestones will help you manage time, maintain focus, track your journey, and build in celebrations. In order to avoid burn out or let time pass you by, be realistic with your milestone dates. For example, if you know your schedule doesn’t allow for book reading, you might consider separating it into a chapter a month, thus allowing yourself an entire year. Also remember, milestone dates can differ for each mini-goal. Setting this timeline takes a little extra effort and research. But it will be worth it in the end once you’ve actualized your dream.
Seek out a support system: You didn’t think we wanted you to go at it alone, did you? Networks are very important. Therefore, share your goals with supportive people. Begin with individuals on a similar path. For example, if you want to write a mystery novel, then join the mystery-writing novel group at your local library. It is a great way to create a personal cheering squad of like-minded souls headed in the same direction. Sharing your goals with others will keep you accountable and add incentive to stick it out, with your personal integrity on display. These groups of people will also genuinely ask about your progress. If you’re unsure where to find an organization, then join an online group centered on the subject, or blog about your goal using relevant tags and categories.
Revise the goal: You’ve visualized. Your goals are posted. You have mini-goals with appropriate milestones. And your cheering squad is ready to help. Now what? Mek and I are both working women with families and other daily priorities. We understand that a lot can happen between January and March. Maybe you’ve switched careers. Perhaps you’ve moved into a different home. Either way, life events sometimes make it close to impossible to achieve the goals that you’ve set three months prior. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Instead, just reflect, and then revise the goal. This could mean that you’ve set up the blog but have found daily maintenance too taxing. It’s okay. Revise the goal! Instead, post once a week until time permits for more frequent blogging. Trust us. These are your goals; revisions are allowed.
Have you tried any of these? Would you add another? Let us know in the comment section. Best of luck for a happy, healthy and fruitful New Year realizing your dreams!
~kg and Mek
A fruitful year to you Kathy:-)
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Love it. I swear you know my life! I just recently joined a women of color in business group and this is exactly what we discussed this morning. Making your goals visible and voicing them makes them real and holds you accountable.
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Yay! I’m so glad this reinforced what you heard…sign 😉 and women of color in business sounds real interesting
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It is. The coordinators saw a need for it in our city-to create some solidarity between small business owners and stimulate our creativity. It just makes it easier to talk with people just like you going through the same challenges.
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Ah, I always struggle with this. I know this is the right way to make personal goals and resolutions stick, but this process looks like what I do at my day job, which exhausts me. I’m busy managing projects, milestones and deliverables all day and then come home to a laminated list of personal goals and it makes me want to cry. Any thoughts on how to make this process seem less like work?
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Lol that makes sense. Maybe just do one of the six? Or write one mini-goal on the first and last day of your calendar
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I wish I was one of those people, like my husband, who loves tracking things, but sadly after a day in the office I’m done!
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I get it girl
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That’s the way I am with entertainment. I don’t like watching stuff that makes you think. I don’t wanna think in my personal time
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That I totally get! I love brain candy novels in my off time.
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You image says courage, confidence, willingness to take risks, embracing the unknown AND leap year 😊
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I know right! Isn’t that profound?
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Was it intentional? The leap year bit? Perhaps on a subconscious level? 😊
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I think whoever made it did it intentionally
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